What to expect
If you would like to talk with me, as an experienced therapist,
I would like to offer you a warm, confidential, safe, non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and feelings together to talk about yourself, your life and anything that may be confusing, painful or uncomfortable. Counselling provides a unique way to think and talk about yourself in a way you often can't do with family and friends.
The structure of the therapy means you have a place and time each week that is just for you, to reflect on whatever you choose. Sessions are regular and frequent to give as much continuity and support as possible and I will encourage you to use the time for reflection.
As a client you can bring as much or as little, whatever is foremost in your mind to the session, this can be feelings, thoughts, experiences, memories, dreams, and together we will try to make sense of your feelings and behaviours. We will work together to find a way through these concerns and improve your wellbeing. As a therapist, I bring my skills to listen to the way you feel about things and how this affects you and those around you, to reflect with you and to use my knowledge to bring other perspectives and ideas, or ways of understanding yourself and your problems which you may not have considered.
Counselling and psychotherapy can support you in making decisions about your life, nonetheless, my role as a therapist is not to tell you what to do, but to empower you as you gain a better understanding of yourself as a resource. The process should allow you to feel more informed in the choices you make, to support you in making changes and in developing solutions to problems, to do things differently and to feel more confident in dealing with situations in a way that feels right for you, to move on in your life with a feeling of increased wellbeing.
At the heart of my work is an approach which accepts you the way you are, without judgment, which is an essential aspect in a relationship of trust. Over the course of the therapy, you should feel informed, in control, and comfortable with the process and it is part of my role to ensure this. This does not mean you may not feel uncomfortable at times, or find it difficult to share very personal issues, it is natural to be anxious and I understand how difficult it can be to talk about problems and express feelings.
However, in this process you will always be in control of what you talk about, how you talk about it, and what you don’t want to talk about. Your feelings on what you want to share with me may change over time, this is also fine and perhaps to be expected. Please be assured my aim is to only ever proceed at a pace that is appropriate for you.
You should also feel free to ask any questions of me concerning your therapeutic process and our professional relationship and I will actively engage you in this by asking for regular feedback on your experience and how effective or ineffective you may find different aspects of our work together.